What is your favorite part of worship here on a Sunday morning? Do you like that liberal religion is defined
and celebrated here, Sunday after Sunday, same place, same time? Or is you favorite part joys and sorrows or
coffee hour, because you like to talk?
Do you feel like you haven’t been to church if you don’t get a
hug? Or is it the silence, the prayer or
the chiming of the singing bowl that speaks to you? Or is your favorite part the announcements,
or the Share Half offering when you get to find out how and when to do
something to make this world a better place?
How about the choir? Do you like
that it is consistently excellent? That
the music often inspires you to feel?
That singing makes you feel at one with others? That the songs inspire you to work for
justice?
What is your least favorite part? Does not beginning and not ending promptly
drive you crazy? Do joys and concerns
embarrass you? Do you sit so you can look
out the window because that is secretly your favorite part of being here? Do you think services are a waste of time if
they don't cause you and others to want to take concrete action in the “real” world?
This morning, I am going to invite you to reflect on the
attitudes and activities that characterize how you most comfortably make a connection
with whatever you consider to be most worthy of your ultimate focus. For means of simplicity, I’ll use the
shorthand phrase “spiritual type” for all those attitudes and activities that
most serve to connect to whatever you consider higher being. I want you to leave today, with a better
understanding of your way of expressing whatever it is you come to church to
express. I want you to better understand
what you need to feel connected, what it takes to feel like you have been “to church”. And I want to understand that what feels like
worship to you, may be quite different from what feels like worship for the person sitting next to you.
Sometimes we think that if we make space for
the theists (those who believe in the existence of a specific God or who value
a God-concept) and the humanists, those who are agnostic or a-theist, and for those who
define themselves as more earth centered, we have covered the variety of
preferences...here. Yet, if we think
only about these three differences…theistic, humanist, neo-pagan... it keeps us
from looking at another way we are a diverse which may have a much more
powerful impact on how we understand our expectations and needs.
Knowing about spiritual types can help us to understand
different styles of worship across different faiths, different styles of
worship within a particular faith, and the variety of expressions within particular
denomination, and the diversity present here most every Sunday.
The premise of this is that all of us have a “primary”
spiritual type. Discovering what yours is, will help you to appreciate that the
spiritual expressions of others may be very different from yours. Discovering your spiritual type, will help
you see that no one way is the “right” way.
That no one type is the “truly” spiritual type.
For it takes all of us to make a whole congregation, to express and
appreciate all the ways that we can together connect with what is worthy in
this life.
So, I am going to ask you a series of questions. Try to keep track of how many you can say yes
to!
- So, when you sing a hymn, do you look ahead to see if you agree with the words?
- Do especially like the music when it sounds like the kind you might hear at the Symphony?
- Could you easily complete this sentence: The truth is ____?
- Is it important to you that services, or meetings, or classes start and end on time?
- Does the wording of the Unitarian Universalist principles, of the church mission statement, or of the statement of affirmation really matter to you?
- Are you especially interested in the content of most sermons and want to read more about whatever the subject is?
- Do you take pleasure in intellectual inquiry and critical investigation?
- Do you have a passion for congruence in thought and statement, wanting propositions to be demonstrably logical?
- Do you want to hear more sermons about our Unitarian Universalist heritage?
- Does being right mean more to you than being in relationship?
- Do you prefer classes where an expert speaks on UU history or World Religions over one on spiritual autobiography?
- Do you like the Sunday service to be all of a piece, carefully planned, with a clear theme running throughout?
Try these:
- Do you really love that we end worship holding hands?
- Is your idea of a good service one that deeply moves you, brings tears to your eyes, or makes you feel deep joy?
- Do you enjoy encountering others on a one on one basis?
- Do you like meetings, classes, social functions, coffee hour because you can share conversation with those you like seeing and being with?
- Is time for spoken Joys and Sorrows very important to you whether or not you have something to share…because you want to know what’s going on with people?
- When you come to a Sunday Service, do you hope to leave knowing the speaker better than you did before?
- Do you prefer an Adult RE class where people get to tell their own stories?
- Would you like to see more opportunities for sharing your spiritual autobiography and hearing other’s?
- Do conflicts really matter to you, either energizing you or draining you?
- Does being in relationship mean more to you than being right?
- Are you satisfied if a sermon tells a good story?
- Do you love having the children in the service, even when (or especially when) they are spontaneous and talkative?
You are all HEART! You
approach spirituality with your emotions, and haven’t been “to church” unless
you have made an emotional connection.
How about these?
- In your best moments, do you feel in tune with/one with the whole universe?
- Does the metaphor of life as a journey really work for you?
- Does prayer or meditation appeal to you, the more in silence the better?
- Do you love being alone and wish you could be alone more?
- Do you wish the loud conversations inside this room were kept to a minimum, so that you could more easily make the transition from your busy life to this worship time?
- Do you like the sound of the chime calling you to be present to the moment?
- Do you wish there were more and longer periods to empty yourself of the chatter of daily life during our worship services?
- Is the chalice lighting and just coming forward to light a candle during joys and sorrows… parts of the service that are important for you?
- Do you love chants and rounds?
- Is it important to you that our church building, inside and out, be a place of beauty and serenity? Would you like for us to have a building that was big enough to separate the fellowship area from the sanctuary?
- Would you like to see more communion services, (water, flower, bread, because ritual speaks to you in a ways that words don’t?
- Does a class or a group focused on the sacredness of ordinary moments appeal to you?
You are a MYSTIC.
Approaching the ultimate has to do with emptying yourself, being at one
with the great beyond…
And finally?
- Did you like the UU slogan, “deeds not creeds”?
- Do you believe that one of the best ways to find out who you are and what you believe is to act publicly in concert with others?
- Would you be highly complimented to be called an activist, or an advocate?
- Have you attended a Social Action Team meeting…(with a proposal for us to do something)?
- Did you participate in Moral Mondays?
- Where you or are you considering being in the Peace Corps?
- Do you get goose bumps when singing, “We Shall Overcome”, or when we use gospel or folk songs that inspire you to work for justice?
- Do you believe that the purpose of a church is to comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable?
- Is it important to you that The Newsletter, the bulletin boards, the e-news and the spoken announcements make people aware of the ways that we can put our values into action in the community…in the state…in the world?
- Do you wish our congregation did more work to dismantle ableism, ageism, racism and homophobia?
- Do you believe that the purpose of a church is to transform the world and not just to change ourselves?
- Do you believe that church services should be the way we express our convictions?
If you are guided by your head you may value the
intellectual and speculative approach to worship, tending to appreciate what
can be put in logical terms. Concepts are valuable to you. This type of
spirituality favors heritage and form, what it can see, touch, and vividly
imagine. Words and speaking are
important. Your aim in coming to church
is intellectual renewal, finding better ways of understanding what is worthy of
your attention in life. Order,
structure, heritage are important. “Rank
by Rank” is the kind of hymn you relate to.
Corporate congruence is important.
Yet, over reliance on this spiritual type leads to
intolerant rationalism, persons always on the lookout for the illogical, or
what fine point they can argue with. Perhaps
a growing edge for persons with this type of spirituality is to be found in
learning to wait, in practicing whatever slows the rush to thinking. Head types might be served by taking a
mediation class, where they may learn to empty the mind.
If you are of the Heart type, also like Head appreciates
vivid images, stories with characters…but everything that really matters will
always be filtered through your feelings.
Whatever your feelings are in the current moment are the most important
thing to you. You come to church to feel good.
You may feel abandoned or forsaken by your religion when you feel low or
angry. Your aim in worship is personal
renewal and transformation. Spontaneity,
warmth, memory, story, practical serving make sense to you. You may not be on the picket line, but you will
volunteer to clean up the kitchen, because your momma did and her momma before
that. Amazing Grace is your hymn.
The weakness, or shadow side, of this type is sentimentality
or what used to be called “pietism”…It is easy for you to adopt a holier than
thou attitude. If you are a Heart type
your growing edge may be to immerse yourself in learning to think critically
adding that skill to your immense ability to feel.
If you are a Mystic path, hearing is more important than
speaking. Your aim is union with the
divine, or renewal of your inner life.
For you the Sacred is a creative force, met through journey. Being, symbol, beauty, and ritual speak to
you. Chants are your song. The practice of contemplation is important to
you.
A weakness of this
path may be isolated withdrawal from the world.
A reality check might be in order!.
Those who are Hands type aren’t satisfied unless they are engaged
in action. These are the crusaders. They measure worth by the level of their, and
of your, commitment and passion. We’ll
Build a Land may be your song. If you
are a Hands type the transformation of society is important to you.
Too much emphasis on this as “the” path leads to moralistic
fanaticism. So your growing edge may be
whatever helps you to experience joy in the present moment, realizing the need
to constantly work for a better world can be modulated by focus on now, rather
than always then….
Exclusive dominance in any one quadrant leads to it’s
excess, dogmatism, emotionalism, withdrawal, or tunnel-vision. Any congregation that allows the expression
of only one spiritual type, will drive out those who express themselves
differently. And they will also too easily
identify their particular spiritual tendency as THE RIGHT WAY….missing appreciation
for balance and wholeness …It is important to be with those who are different
from you, to learn what it means to be whole.
All individuals and groups have multiple spiritual
tendencies. How many of you couldn’t
decide and find you are of two types, or three?
What might you think is the dominant type of this congregation? …of UUism in general?
As a worship leader, I try to remember to build into every
worship service what will appeal to every type.
I know that any time I hear folks insist that the right way to
do worship is to end at such and such a time…, or we must have spoken joys and
sorrows, or more silence please, or so come to me afterwards and say; “so what
are we supposed to do about it?”….that they are telling me what their spiritual
type is!
Probably the most important thing to take away today is for
all of us to know that these four “types” are not liberal vs conservative, or reflective of theism, humanist or pagan. There are not liberal or conservative. There are
theistic, humanist and pagan groups peopled by all four types. It is not the case that any of these styles
are better or more mature than the others, just different. They reach different people in different ways
at different times. A whole church ought
to attend to meeting everyone’s needs for comfort and challenge. There are those who express their
spirituality and expect to be addressed in a cognitive/intellectual/head
fashion or a emotive/connectional/heart fashion, or an
introspective/meditational/mystic fashion or who are hands on activists. And all of you are here every Sunday!
What I hope you have heard is that we are more diverse and
perhaps in deeper ways than we may have imagined. It takes all of us, to be whole!
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